How a Doula Supports Both Parents During Birth
In the last twenty years, birth partners have become more involved in the birth experience than ever before. At the same time, more birthing people are choosing to have a doula by their side. But does having a doula mean the partner takes a back seat? Absolutely not! In fact, at Indigo Doula Services, we believe that a doula enhances the birth experience for both parents, supporting them as they navigate this life-changing journey together.
Even the most prepared birth partner—having read all the books, taken prenatal classes, and practiced comfort techniques—can find themselves overwhelmed in the birth space. Some may feel unsure of what to do in the moment, while others may struggle to balance their emotions with the desire to provide steady support. Doulas ensure that both parents feel confident, informed, and connected throughout labor and birth.
The Birth Environment:
A Unique Challenge
When labor begins, the birth space can feel unfamiliar and intense. A hospital room, for example, may be filled with machines that beep unpredictably. Is that a low-paper warning or a sign of an emergency? Medical providers may come and go, leaving long stretches where the couple is on their own. Labor is unlike anything else—it brings deep, primal sounds, physical intensity, and a wide range of emotions, from exhaustion to exhilaration.
A birth partner naturally wants to protect and comfort their loved one, but the unfamiliarity of birth can make it challenging to know how to respond. The pressure to remember every technique, communicate with medical staff, and provide unwavering support can be overwhelming. That’s where a doula comes in.
How a Doula Supports Both Parents
A doula acts as a knowledgeable guide, offering practical support and reassurance. Before birth, we at Indigo Doula Services take time to understand each couple’s values, preferences, and concerns, ensuring that both parents feel confident going into labor. During birth, the doula provides guidance on comfort measures, like massage and counter-pressure, and helps the partner apply them effectively.
Doulas are familiar with the birth setting and can interpret the environment—explaining what the machines are monitoring, where to find extra pillows or towels, and when a noise is just routine rather than cause for concern. If the partner needs a break to grab a snack, make a phone call, or simply step away for a few minutes, the doula seamlessly steps in to maintain continuous support for the birthing person.
Strengthening the Connection
Between Parents
A doula understands that the love and connection between the birthing person and their partner is one of the most powerful forces in the room. Our role is not to take over, but to enhance that connection. By offering reassurance, relieving pressure, and ensuring both parents feel supported, a doula helps foster an experience that brings couples even closer together.
We encourage partners to trust in their instincts and abilities, providing the reassurance that they are doing a great job. Doulas are not there to critique, but rather to guide, support, and ensure that no one feels lost in the process. By being part of the birth team, a doula helps create an environment where both parents can be fully present and engaged in the birth of their baby.
At Indigo Doula Services, we believe that when birth partners feel supported, empowered, and connected, the birth experience becomes even more meaningful. With the right support, birth is not just about welcoming a baby—it’s about strengthening a family bond that will last a lifetime.
Your Coach
Sabine Hankiewicz, Birth Doula CD (DONA)
Lamaze Childbirth Educator LCCE
Meet Sabine Hankiewicz, your trusted guide through the journey of pregnancy, childbirth, and beyond. Sabine is not just any coach; she's a certified birth doula through DONA International and a certified Lamaze childbirth educator. With her extensive knowledge, unwavering support, and nurturing presence, Sabine empowers expectant parents with the information and techniques they need for a positive birth experience. Whether you're seeking a doula's comforting touch or comprehensive childbirth education, Sabine's expertise ensures you're in capable hands as you embark on this incredible adventure into parenthood.
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